Sometimes in our lives we come to a point where we feel torn. Torn between two different choices. Sometims it is so bad that you might just freeze while a battle rages inside of you. You aren’t sure which one is better. They both feel right… or they both feel wrong… or you just don’t know, neither feels right or more right over the other. Maybe you have to decide one or the other but the choices are so unalike that the outcome will be vastly different, setting you on very divergent courses, sometimes affecting others as well. This has happened to me a number of times. And it feels shitty. A battle within over something that feels very important and I really don’t know what to do. So much stress!
Over the last few years I have seen that the best decision making strategy is to go with what feels right, what pulls you, what you are excited about, what doesn’t bring on massive feelings of stress. Basically following your heart or inner guidance. But what happens when it doesn’t clearly guide you in one direction over the other? You feel you HAVE to decide but you just don’t know what to do. What you do in this situation is wait. Just wait. I know it feels like you must decide right now. But sometimes you don’t yet know the right direction and you just need to be patient until you know more and something feels right. I know from experience this can be hard to remember. But you don’t want to make a decision just because you know you will have to eventually. You want to make it because it feels like the best decision. Sometimes the best decision is to just wait patiently until you feel a particular direction pull you.
This reminds me of something I read in the Tao Te Ching, one of my favorite books:
“Do you have the patience to wait
till your mud settles and the water is clear?
Can you remain unmoving
till the right action arises by itself?”
Sometimes I need to remind myself of this as well. It’s easy to get caught up in everything and forget to be calm and patient and let things arise when they do. But the truth is, the right action always presents itself at just the right time.
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